https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/blog-1RSS for NodeFri, 09 Jun 2023 03:27:24 GMThttps://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/coaches-are-players61fe021c2cb572878a6897d4Sat, 05 Feb 2022 04:56:18 GMTMichael Sturdivant The coach plays a pivotal role in getting the best out of the team. The player commits to play a game they love. Success matters in the buy-in they get from each player individually and collectively. Trust will make one believe they can fly without wings. It’s not gullibility. It’s a faith that they have received something no one else has, and with that gift, it’s possible. The coach has a voice that can be heard internally. It makes the difference between effort and exhaustion. Effort chooses what value it will place on a task or journey. Exhaustion is discovered in the panic of desperation. The next play can only be your best play, and it must anticipate an experience the coach has lived thousand times over. You play the game until coaching gives you the satisfaction that it can reach more people through achieving common goals. Experts are consistent at applying simple execution to complex scenarios. You become one through accountability, patience, practice, and perseverance.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/failing-to-compromise61f7ede220c3658206537728Mon, 31 Jan 2022 14:20:13 GMTMichael Sturdivant Don't be confused the sacrifice is not losing or letting someone go, it's suffering to hold on knowing they could be better off without you. Pray to make the best decision available or none at all. God can bring you through any test if you remember his promises before the trial. Submit to commit yourself to being better than your last failed attempt to compromise.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/don-t-hesitate-execute61f23b0f1e747a0016cee3a6Thu, 27 Jan 2022 06:30:03 GMTMichael Sturdivant Blinking eyes never stop fulfilling the purpose of their design. They do it silently without alerting anyone as to how much they clean the eyes to see clearer. No one keeps count or stands before you to watch how perfect it occurs. Every day allows you an opportunity to do something different maybe even impactful while remaining consistent. It's the initiative, planning, and execution that takes responsibility for your actions. If you intend to be more beneficial than relevant, play your position. Your relevance is judged by how humble you serve. Support those who lead and be prepared to accept and understand the assignment. You have what it takes to make the ultimate difference. Don't hesitate. Execute!!

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/blurred-perceptions61eceaed2e29950017a8e762Sun, 23 Jan 2022 05:48:42 GMTMichael Sturdivant The tenets of love and patterns of abuse take the same amount of energy. The motives are even similar, to not lose your time and attention based on perceived attraction. Abuse is intentional and requires your fear of escape to trap you in a vicious cycle of passive-aggressiveness, gaslighting, and threats. Love does not fear losing you because, at a fundamental and transparent level, they like loving you whether you're there or not. No obligations, just authentic consideration that they are there if you can accept it. Be careful; people fall in love with their assumptions just as much as their hopes and dreams. Communicate the need to be reliant upon the todays you make worth the promised tomorrow. Don't allow emotional anxiety to dissuade others into wasting time they’ll never get back. Friends enjoy their time and space together and apart. They can miss you without being paranoid that you left them. Abusers deplete your energy to the point of complacency. Love motivates you to explore how much better your lives can become together. It's like art that's appreciated while being drawn. Every pattern of abuse has the same excuse; you didn't understand what they were trying to do. You didn't know they couldn't love you without being who they were to you. Always remember every kiss is linked to lips pressed against yours or the shared feelings that mutually exist.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/lessons-learned-knowkedge-management-l2km61ea3c98be47f400162229d3Fri, 21 Jan 2022 04:56:31 GMTMichael Sturdivant Take a look at any scar on your skin. Run your finger along those lines. If you remember what happened, you’ve witnessed a miracle. Not only did you survive, but the instant it happened, you started healing. If it didn’t kill you, but it hurt as it healed. It stung as it scabbed. The scar now covers the hole, applying layers of skin that protect that one spot. Experiences leave scars that force you to watch that portion of your heart, mind, and soul. Broken hearts heal, but they never love the same. Love is patient and kind. That’s it: no secret sauce, no hidden agenda. Every scar is a lesson learned. The heart, mind, and body learn to discern from people, places, and things what could have killed them on purpose. Trust that those scars are there for the perfection of your life's most detrimental encounter, growth.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/a-thorn-s-rose61e8ed0a8def53001620111cThu, 20 Jan 2022 05:09:29 GMTMichael Sturdivant If you squeeze this rose, it will hurt. Its beauty is to be adorned, not disrupted. It didn’t grow because of the thorns. It developed into a flower with a selfless purpose. The thorn is a byproduct of a growth experience. Love all that you are not just the parts attracted to the most. The petals are temporary, while the thorns are not. The only thing affected is the hands that can’t see and eyes that don’t respect, boundaries that give you both the reason and the consequences.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/the-yoke-s-truth61e7730f94040700172f426eWed, 19 Jan 2022 02:12:49 GMTMichael Sturdivant There’s no one in this world like you. No one thinks like you, nor could they ever give you precisely what you need, want, or desire. Experiences provide you with a level of tolerance you call acceptance. You equate love to what is being provided, sacrificed, or given. It’s in that one opportunity people pass or fail YOUR expectations. When you meet people, and you click, it’s not a sound. It’s a vibe: some vibes last seasons, some a lifetime. For all that to take place, imagine being yourself long enough to connect with all the vulnerable love they have left to take a chance on you. Voila, you’re more than strangers now. Don’t ruin that explosive, spontaneous, once-in-a-lifetime event for you or them. Every time you do, you worry if that the experience was ever authentic . It will always mean something to you in that then, not the next now when you need it. When you're evenly yoked, the proof is in the substance your transparency promotes.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/it-s-starts-with-a-thought61e2c093e0aa4a0016e5d4cbSat, 15 Jan 2022 12:59:48 GMTMichael Sturdivant When your thoughts convict your actions, it redirects your attention—maturity applies wisdom to finish sentences that promote peaceful resolution. Resolution of the problem relieves the pressure to be self-righteous. Accountability is the self reflection that promotes integrity. It's a relief to know that freedom hinges on speaking life into every thought. It's also the execution of plans and dreams no one else will ever perceive.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/for-the-love-of-you61e0f25c123ea4001647b358Fri, 14 Jan 2022 04:23:21 GMTMichael Sturdivant The impact you have on anyone's life is in the deference you agree to disagree. It’s the depth of the effect that leaves a range of emotions from memorable impressions or undeniable trauma. When you love unconditionally, you finally push through the need for approval and righteousness. You can accept correction without counting it as criticism. You live to learn how you can be an asset with equity. The balance in loving anyone that takes you for you are steadfast to meet the needs of the relationship, not your expectations. The time you spend investing in this journey facilitates an outcome that is mutually beneficial. It will require consistent effort to ensure that tomorrow is all you both need and hope God provides.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/don-t-you-ever61d88d68d477050016a77cb9Fri, 07 Jan 2022 19:00:54 GMTMichael Sturdivant It’s incredible how people will define your effort in how much it serves them. You have givers, takers, and guaranteed blessings. No one gets to assign value to the task, deed, or favor provided to them. They received the 100% they couldn’t achieve on their own. They received the 1000% you gave could have used on anything else. Time is more precious than money, and your life can only be lived one second at a time. When you give them the 1000%, you gave it without question or reservation. Please don’t let anyone guilt you into working for them when they can’t serve your need, benefit, or desire. Appreciate the effort, and the gesture will correspond to the intentional support they have chosen to provide. Serve gratefully and receive abundantly in the spirit of the deliberate attitude used to deliver the gift. You’re worth all that you didn’t know you had to give.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/this-lifetime61d715835bf8940017f64070Thu, 06 Jan 2022 16:29:35 GMTMichael Sturdivant At some point in your life, recognize the moments you cherish have nothing to do with anyone else’s acceptance. How you achieve peace will not include a plan, or compromise; or look to get anyone's approval. Relationships acknowledge we are different, and in this season, we enjoy the same space. Marriage is forgiveness and communication that leverages our growth. Family forgives and breaks generational curses that excuses manifest. Above all, joy starts with you but legacy does not end because of you. It’s the plight within the journey that signifies the lesson was worth the reflected experience. It will all happen this lifetime.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/fulfill-your-blank61d10e93ad908d00165d2a42Sun, 02 Jan 2022 02:47:51 GMTMichael Sturdivant This year is going to be fulfilled with _________. Happiness, accountability, sadness, or disappointments can fill in the blank. You must ensure it clears your conscience, satisfies your soul, and leaves no regrets. Every day is your responsibility. Make decisions that never compromise choices. Say no if you can’t commit to the blessings that yes offer. Give people the grace to be who they are, not who you hope they become. Above all, honor time by not wasting it or anyone else’s genuine opportunity to be their best with or without you.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/expectations-fulfilled61cd186a4d5d3800176632c3Thu, 30 Dec 2021 02:50:23 GMTMichael Sturdivant Needs are fulfilled when expectations are met. The tough part is knowing those expectations. It‘s not an even exchange of ideas to meet task required. It’s developing the forethought and consideration to provide things they never knew were normal transfers of positive energy. People want to be needed, loved, relevant and desired. They also love the genuine connection that comes with being an acknowledged priority. It’s as simple as you trusting God with your intentions the same as he knows your thoughts. It does not happen over night but when it does its consistent. You’ll never anticipate anyones intentions with questioning their motives. Clear communication, prevents missed opportunities to learn through each other’s experiences to define the best alternatives to meeting mutual expectations.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/opinions-vs-transparency61cb79e10089c6001619321aTue, 28 Dec 2021 23:02:01 GMTMichael Sturdivant Transparency is the vulnerable truth shared without regard for the judgment feared. It's the stuff that significant relationships are made of, endure and grow through. The life you live is not free. We live through what we share, show, and release. No one gets the total amount of you until they experience your authentic self. It‘s so pure emotions can't form a facial expression to remember a comparison. In the living, you see the actual color of others' judgment; some will, and others won't be able to handle it. The truth being told will exist in your every tomorrow together or apart. The most crucial element in this essential task is to listen, learn, love unconditionally and grow with those that need nothing but an assurance that they too have lived long enough to finally be free in their mind, not worried about anyone else's opinion. None have the strength or value to be who you've become to them or you.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/so-glad-we-didn-t61c774d8405ba6001734787aSun, 26 Dec 2021 09:01:04 GMTMichael Sturdivant It took me a long time to recognize that everyone not with me wasn't against me; we just wasn’t “itn-it.” It wasn't personal or impersonal they had their priorities. I didn't need to be one. No remorse or explanation it was what it is; I’m grateful. Now for those that we remember, cherish and cheer with; we got this. We know when it's real and when it's an executed thought. God has blessed me to meet some great people with life defining spirits. I’ve also met some people I wish knew how much I loved, respected and wanted more than their attention. I still do but respect exactly what life showed us about one another. Next lifetime we’ll know better. It was great loving, liking and desiring to be on the same page; it had its phase. Now we’re the best representation of our intentions. It was the sincere intimacy of focus for me. I pray we all find those special people that just click. Something that looks and feels so natural you feel like one mind, body and soul united in purpose. I'm fortunate to have who God created time and purpose to exchange this lifetimes space.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/welcome-a-new-year61c772751258b90016f5e4efSat, 25 Dec 2021 19:36:51 GMTMichael Sturdivant During this time of the year reflections, memories, and lessons learned are embraced as the past. We look forward to a new year with assurance, revelation and expectation. Be intentional, authentic and present with each answered prayer. Take this journey one breath and step at a time. Be grateful knowing that where you were is not who or where you’re stuck. Allow your life and the shared vulnerability in those emotions to express, feel and to show love as a complete experience without regret. Be the embodiment of you motives. Take steps your past can't imagine. Be the best you God’s tomorrow can offer.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/who-feels-lucky612d74b0f02feb001739960aTue, 31 Aug 2021 18:44:59 GMTMichael Sturdivant Luck has a lot to do with unanticipated favor. The crazy part is it requires someone to witness the miracle that included your perfect execution. Somethings perfect things happen when you least expect it. Genuine relationships occur with perfect timing and grace. Be grateful to meet those who God sends specifically for your growth to experience in the seasons and life.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/expect-to-communicate612af9b12478830016ba9ed3Sun, 29 Aug 2021 03:16:00 GMTMichael Sturdivant It’s good to communicate wants. They must match the needs to be respected as relevant to mutual growth and respect. The connection is more profound than casual. It’s mutual. The answer to that one question resolves a lot of pain caused by unmet expectations.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/thoughtful-execution61285128f3ade900166d62f7Fri, 27 Aug 2021 02:53:34 GMTMichael Sturdivant You're equipped with tools no one else has been blessed to use. It's all in you. You lack nothing and need nothing that your experiences have not revealed. It's the moments when you worry about the outcome without knowing your effort need a strategy to solve the problem. Effort is in everything, including your thoughts. How you think through it is as powerful as what you do while you're in it.

]]>https://www.motiv8tionallyspeaking.com/post/you-are-enough6126ff6e61f7060016e700a4Thu, 26 Aug 2021 02:44:43 GMTMichael Sturdivant Love will never be enough for anyone wanting more than the feeling. Feelings change with the growth experienced together and apart. The relationships that love unconditionally pursue the benefit of all doubts. It's the trust that you are enough is what matters.

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